Monthly Archives: August 2011



Polyday was brilliant!  The day started off with me feeling quite emotional as I left home to travel to Holborn.  I thought of all the times I’d been told that it was impossible to love more than one person, and that I must be some kind of a deviant for doing so.  I got quite tearful thinking of how fortunate I was to be able to live in the present as a polyamorous, bisexual woman; to have understanding partners (most of the time), and to have events like Polyday close to home. 

I arrived at Polyday while the sun was still shining.  I walked into the main hall where I instantly saw several friends I knew from bisexual, kinky and genderqueer spaces I’ve been to.  Everyone seemed to be in a really good mood, and that just added to the chilled-out atmosphere.

I visited Jemima Wilcox’s stall where she was selling copies of her Poly project book.  She had the cunning plan of giving away free sweeties and a bag with every copy, which seemed to be working very well for her.

The first session I attended was ‘Getting Polytical’  I had been impressed by the sheer enthusiasm of the Polytical folks since meeting them two years ago.  Polytical are working on a series of educational leaflets and packs.  Some of the subject they hope to cover are: Sex education, advice for Human Resource workers, social workers, and sexual health workers.  Polytical also hope to produce some documentaries on poly.   During the session I was also struck by how it was possible for me to be in an activist space, and not get annoyed or angry by clueless people.  I felt positive and understood, which was refreshing!

I attended ‘Poly 201’ next which was full of useful knowledge from more experienced poly people.  There next followed a short break where I went out to a local sandwich shop with two friends of mine. One of my friends managed to stop a thief in the shop, which was an unexpected thing to happen on an already exciting day!

After the break I went to the ‘Poly T-shirts’ workshop.  Somehow my dormant sewing skills resurfaced for the hour, and I was able to create a little applique on a T-shirt.

The next session was ‘Poly Stories’  I’d brought a few things to read, but I wasn’t sure what the format of the session would be as I wasn’t running it.  A man with a Poly-Quaker T-shirt told a fairytale that ended in a three-way wedding, another man told of his real-life experiences of discovering polyamory.  I read two stories, one from NSFW and one from my upcoming Bisexual Men book.  A woman then read the most lovely children’s book, Six-dinner Sid, about a cat who lives with six families on one street.  The session ended with a short but beautiful poem by the Poly-Quaker.

The evening ‘Speakeasy’ was a simple, but wonderful idea.  Everyone mingled, chatted, and enjoyed the music from a very talented pianist who played music from the 1920s and 30’s.

I went home with a huge smile on my face, a happy poly woman. 

Many thanks to all those who helped make Polyday a wonderful day for me.

If you also loved Polyday, then OpenCon is a Poly weekender that happens in October.

An Expanded Love is my polyamorous novel, part of which takes place at Polyday!

Polyday 2011: Not strictly bi, but with so much crossover, why not?

Response to letter to JMS Books


Unfortunately, we don’t have any editorial staff able to address stories that contain sex between genders. Also, my own marketing expertise lies in gay or lesbian promo, and I don’t think I could adequately promote a book whose sexual content is between a man and a woman. Other presses can handle that better than us at this point in time. I’m sorry.

JM Snyder




That’s the response I received.  My question still stands: Why not call it GLT if that’s what it is?

To JMS books, a GLBT press


I am all kinds of disappointed with this.  It’s like Stonewall have branched out into publishing…

From the Submissions page: JMS Books LLC is a small press specializing in gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender fiction”

And further down the page: (my bolding)

“What we don’t accept:
We publish what we like to read. At this point in time, we are not accepting submissions from new authors in the genres of extreme BDSM or heterosexual, bisexual, or menage erotica.”

My email:

Dear J.M. Snyder,

I’ve just had a look at your submission page. Why would a GLBT press not want bisexual stories?  Why not just say you are a GLT press and be done with it?  It feels insulting to me, a bisexual writer who writes all sexual orientations.  Biphobia includes erasing the existence of bisexuals in fact and fiction. Please consider the hurt this causes to people who face this kind of discrimination on a daily basis.  I will never be gay enough for some folks, and I will never be straight enough either. 

Please be better than this.

J. Applebee