Monthly Archives: October 2016



I gave a talk recently about homelessness and minorities.  A summary and my slides can be seen here 

I was homeless 23 years ago, but its effects have never left me.  The fear of being so vulnerable and alone as a black disabled sometimes-woman is something I’ll never be able to forget, as it was terrifying to me.  More support is needed for homeless who are LGBT , disabled, People of Colour and/or very young or old.  However much of the homeless initiatives I’ve seen tend to concentrate on straight white men.  Things need to be so much better.

Also included in the link above is my partial zine on how to safely run away if you’re an adult.  You can buy the complete zine on Etsy 

Asexual Awareness Week 2016:  Bi Aces of Color



Happy Asexual Awareness Week!  Let’s build awareness and support our Biromantic, Biaromantic, and BiDemisexual Ace-Spectrum community members of Color. #BiAce

Biromantic = Capacity to form emotional and romantic attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people, no sexual attraction.  

Biaromantic = Capacity to form emotional attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people, no romantic or sexual attraction.


Capacity to form sexual attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals


feel sexual attraction compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity. For more info visit here.

Bi Asexuals of Color seeking more community support and resources can reach out to:

*Note: BIWOC online support groups are open to people who live outside of Boston.


Welcome to black history month!
Here’s a diagram of a slave ship.
Here’s a pic of Martin Luther King.
Here’s exactly where you fit.

Do Black Britons have a history?
Do we even have a past?
Where we came from isn’t a mystery;
We’ve been here since Roman soldiers with skin so dark.

You’ll see us if you care to look
On stained glass in cathedral windows.
So why’s UK Black History Month a US event?
Why’s history a white washed show?

We have poets and composers,
Leaders of the TUC & politicians.
We fought in world wars, and we fought for peace –
You’d know that if you’d care to listen.

Our achievements aren’t only in the past,
We make history every day.
So don’t ignore Black Britons
This October, hear what we have to say.




By Fey   


This is not a feel good piece to soothe your journey in asserting your sexual orientation. This is about me being fed up with your biphobic bullshit. You’ve been warned.

Don’t come into bisexual spaces demanding that we stop calling ourselves “bisexual.” It’s beyond rude and offensive. It’s shitty behavior.

I don’t want to hear that you think the word “bisexual” is nasty, too “sexual,” transphobic, constricting, confining, or limiting. Being exposed to your venomous biphobic words triggers my anxiety. I cry and feel scared for my emotional and physical safety. You ain’t no friend of mine! I’m not safe around you!

I don’t want to hear about how you think all bisexuals only want to date cis women and men. I don’t appreciate you erasing me — a gender non-binary androgyne person who’s on the trans spectrum. You act like trans folks ain’t bisexual? You act like bisexuals can’t have self-love nor love trans folks. You act like all bisexuals are cisgender. Nah!

I find your insensitive, self-centered need to express your hate for my identity, my humanity and my bi kin neglectful, emotionally abusive, and obviously biphobic.

Don’t come into my bisexual safe space (that welcomes pan, queer, fluid, unlabeled folks) and make demands for me to change my personal and community label for your selfish needs.

You label yourself “queer” and you blame me if I ask you if you are a LesbianQueer or Bi/Pan/FluidQueer. Do you mean GenderQueer? The word “queer” is vague, open-ended, limitless by nature, so be aware of that. Don’t be acting all surprised and shit when people don’t know what is your personal definition of “queer.” Why does it matter? Cause if you are LesbianQueer, the last thing I need is to share my deets about having sex with a cis man and for you to look all grossed about it.

You identify as pansexual, great! Rely on a definition that doesn’t use bisexuality as a comparison.

(Tears and “well-meaning” apologies aren’t wanted. Just change your behavior. Process your pansexuality in pansexual community spaces.)

Fey identifies as Black Bisexual Androgyne and uses they/them and she/her pronouns.

Its a real shame that I have only met 1 pansexual person who DIDN’T define their orientation by being biphobic.  Do better, folks!

For Pansexuals and Queer Folks Who Practice Biphobia